Here we offer a few suggestions to help you manage problems as they arise.
While there are many benefits to home sharing, disagreements can arise. We have all experienced conflicts at some time with family, friends, or housemates. Dealing with differences does not have to be a negative experience. In fact, it can be a growing and uplifting experience when approached with clarity and kindness.
Spend a little time organizing your thoughts and concerns. What has your housemate done to make you unhappy? How have those actions affected you? How have your actions affected your housemate? What specific steps can be taken to resolve the problem?
Now, you can move on to that conversation with your housemate. Here are a few suggestions to deal with small problems before they grow into BIG ones.
■ Articulate the problems as you see them, how you feel, and what you’d like to have done to change the situation.
■ Discuss one issue at a time without being defensive. Focus on the issue, not the person.
■ Make sure you agree on the definition of the problem.
■ Pay attention to what the other person is saying, thinking and feeling about the problem.
■ Discuss the possible solutions. What are the good points about each? Who will do what, and when?
■ Choose a plan with which you are both comfortable.
■ Decide how you will put the plan in place. What are the steps? Who will do what and when?
■ Decide on a time to discuss progress.
■ Recognize what you’ve both accomplished in working out the situation
Should a problem develop with which you could use some help, please contact a Senior Shared Living representative. Tell them you want to arrange for a meeting with a Case Worker.